Abusers may appear to be very nice people on the outside. They may have friends, some may achieve leadership positions in the church. Many times abusers obtain very significant positions in society. They may be very well liked by people and many people will know them as very nice people, BUT WE NEVER KNOW WHAT GOES ON BEHIND CLOSED DOORS.
It is usually us as survivors who are not believed. We as survivors have not been heard. Our abusers have so many convinced of their lies that many people believe that we are the liars. Many people believe "how can a nice person like that be an abuser?", this forced us into silence, thus making the abuse a family secret.
Many of us survivors have been subjected to further abuse because of that. No one believes us so we are subjected to further rejection. Those who were not abused do not understand this because they have not experienced this. We face rejection from the church and are often disfellowshipped or kicked out. Some of us may have lost jobs, been sued, etc. We as survivors are the ones who gets rejected by our society because of their lies. THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON TOO LONG.
No more shall we be silenced, no more shall we face further abuse and rejection because of their lies. It is our turn to speak. No more shall we have a bad reputation because of their lies. Now it is time to put this message to public awareness. It is time to make the public aware of their schemes.
When a survivor gets kicked out of the church, that is a sin against God. When a survivor gets accused of ruining an abuser's reputation and gets sued, that is a sin against God. When a survivor gets fired, that is a sin against God. God sees this. God sees our pain and struggles. Now it is time to bring this to the attention to the public. Now it is time that the abusers get the reputation they deserve.
I will pray for all of you!
Rodney Calmes
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