Never forget what Jesus has done for you on the cross, Your sins have been washed clean and you are pure and holy before God as a result of what Jesus did for you. You are not your past, but you are a new creation in Christ.
Eph 6:12-13
12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
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Luke 7:41-47
41 "There was a certain creditor who had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 And when they had nothing with which to repay, he freely forgave them both. Tell Me, therefore, which of them will love him more?"43 Simon answered and said, "I suppose the one whom he forgave more."And He said to him, "You have rightly judged." 44 Then He turned to the woman and said to Simon, "Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave Me no water for My feet, but she has washed My feet with her tears and wiped them with the hair of her head. 45 You gave Me no kiss, but this woman has not ceased to kiss My feet since the time I came in. 46 You did not anoint My head with oil, but this woman has anointed My feet with fragrant oil. 47 Therefore I say to you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven, for she loved much. But to whom little is forgiven, the same loves little."
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Remember how much you were forgiven and the suffering Jesus went through to forgive you. When you realize how much you were forgiven, you love much, then when others wrong you and you forgive them, they may also love you much. Forgive others as God has forgiven you, and many of your hurts will heal.
Forgiveness is not pretending something never happened to you, it is not thinking that what happened to you is right or that "you deserved it". Forgiveness is accepting the wrong things that happened to you, and knowing that these things were wrong or that "you did not deserve it", then you decide to not hold any hard feelings or bitterness against that person who did it to you, and still love the person and accepting that the person can go to heaven if they repent. It is giving that person a clean slate even though you know that they wronged you. It doesn't mean that you have to go back to that person and set yourself up to be hurt again, or to trust that person. It means that you hold no grudges against that person. Forgiveness is the only way that you can heal from the hurt that a person put you through.
Matt 6:14-15
14 "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
NKJV
No one person can sin against us as many times as we have sinned against God. God forgave us of all of our sins by dying on the cross and taking on more pain than we ever have, so we should fogive those who hurt us as God forgave us. That is the only way we can heal from our hurts, then understand that God will work all things that we have been through for our good.
When you have forgiven your abuser and let go of the bitterness, your emotional wound will be healed. You may be tempted to take back the bitterness and unforgive the abuser, this may occur often especially immediately after forgiving the abuser. If this occurs, take those thoughts captive, constantly remind yourself what Jesus did to forgive you and remind yourself that you have forgiven the abuser. If you take back the bitterness, then you will reopen the wound that was already healed, and you will have to heal all over again. The more you take those thoughts captive and remind yourself that you have forgiven the abuser and let go of the bitterness, the weaker and weaker the temptation gets, and your healing will be stronger.
By Rodney Calmes
Eph 6:12-13
12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
NKJV
Luke 7:41-47
41 "There was a certain creditor who had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 And when they had nothing with which to repay, he freely forgave them both. Tell Me, therefore, which of them will love him more?"43 Simon answered and said, "I suppose the one whom he forgave more."And He said to him, "You have rightly judged." 44 Then He turned to the woman and said to Simon, "Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave Me no water for My feet, but she has washed My feet with her tears and wiped them with the hair of her head. 45 You gave Me no kiss, but this woman has not ceased to kiss My feet since the time I came in. 46 You did not anoint My head with oil, but this woman has anointed My feet with fragrant oil. 47 Therefore I say to you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven, for she loved much. But to whom little is forgiven, the same loves little."
NKJV
Remember how much you were forgiven and the suffering Jesus went through to forgive you. When you realize how much you were forgiven, you love much, then when others wrong you and you forgive them, they may also love you much. Forgive others as God has forgiven you, and many of your hurts will heal.
Forgiveness is not pretending something never happened to you, it is not thinking that what happened to you is right or that "you deserved it". Forgiveness is accepting the wrong things that happened to you, and knowing that these things were wrong or that "you did not deserve it", then you decide to not hold any hard feelings or bitterness against that person who did it to you, and still love the person and accepting that the person can go to heaven if they repent. It is giving that person a clean slate even though you know that they wronged you. It doesn't mean that you have to go back to that person and set yourself up to be hurt again, or to trust that person. It means that you hold no grudges against that person. Forgiveness is the only way that you can heal from the hurt that a person put you through.
Matt 6:14-15
14 "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
NKJV
No one person can sin against us as many times as we have sinned against God. God forgave us of all of our sins by dying on the cross and taking on more pain than we ever have, so we should fogive those who hurt us as God forgave us. That is the only way we can heal from our hurts, then understand that God will work all things that we have been through for our good.
When you have forgiven your abuser and let go of the bitterness, your emotional wound will be healed. You may be tempted to take back the bitterness and unforgive the abuser, this may occur often especially immediately after forgiving the abuser. If this occurs, take those thoughts captive, constantly remind yourself what Jesus did to forgive you and remind yourself that you have forgiven the abuser. If you take back the bitterness, then you will reopen the wound that was already healed, and you will have to heal all over again. The more you take those thoughts captive and remind yourself that you have forgiven the abuser and let go of the bitterness, the weaker and weaker the temptation gets, and your healing will be stronger.
By Rodney Calmes
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