You Are Not Your Mistakes

You Are Not Your Mistakes

Mistakes are something all of us have made.  Some of the mistakes we have made are sins, some of them are not.  We are all human and we all make mistakes.   No one is perfect and we can never be expected to be perfect.

Many times abusers will expect us to be perfect.  When we make a mistake,  they are like bad cops and they will abuse us for it.   They belittle us for making a mistake,  they may beat us for it and they have a way to make us feel inadequate and worthless for it.

We find ourselves walking on egg shells and being afraid to make a mistake.  When we make a mistake, we tremble in fear.  Based on how we were treated, we condition ourselves to think we are worthless and inadequate because of our mistakes.   We look at every mistake we make and we end up belittling ourselves for it.   We have a hard time forgiving ourselves because our abusers never forgave us and continued to harp on us for our mistakes.  We convince ourselves that the abuse was right for us.

We forget that Jesus has died on a cross for our sins and mistakes and He sees us as spotless and without blemish.   He has forgiven our mistakes.   We are seen as perfect in the eyes of God because of what Jesus has done for us.  I am not my mistakes.   You are not your mistakes.

Our mistakes is not something to get down on ourselves for.  Our mistakes do not make us worthless or inadequate.  Our mistakes do not define us as to who we are.  Our mistakes serve as a tool for us to learn and they become stepping stones as we continually grow as people.  We have to continually train ourselves to think this way. We need to take our mistakes as lessons learned and turn from them and LEAVE OUR MISTAKES BEHIND,  THEY ARE NOT A PART OF US.   If you have to repeatedly tell yourself this, do it.  Forgive yourself because God has already forgiven you.

We need to get out of the train of thought that our mistakes make us worthless and inadequate.  We need to get out of the train of thought that abuse is right for us because of a mistake we make.   We need to train ourselves to see our mistakes as lessons learned and stepping stones as we grow.  

Most important of all, FORGIVE YOURSELF AND LEAVE YOUR MISTAKES BEHIND. 

Rodney Calmes