Self Pity Leads To Destruction

Self Pity Leads To Destruction

Coming out of denial and accepting and acknowledging what happened to us is our first steps toward healing.  When we have taken these steps in a positive direction,  we can be tempted to keep reliving our past and feel sorry for ourselves. 

Reliving our past is Satan's way to get our lives to spiral downward to destruction.  We become deceived into believing that we are healing when we are going backwards.  Our lives become more and more of a mess.  That leads to greater and greater destruction.  I know a very good woman who went down that path and she now can no longer function in society.  Her skin is very pale and she looks like a mess.  As we continue to relive our past,  the abuse becomes worse and worse.   STAY OUT OF THE PAST!

Luke 9:62  "No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back is fit for the kingdom of God."

This is why forgiveness of our abusers is a crucial step after we have accepted what happened to us, it keeps us from reliving our past.  Jesus died for all sins on a cross.  He has forgiven our sins and the sins of others.  No one person can sin against us as much as we have sinned against God.  God has forgiven us, so we ought to forgive others. 

Matt 6:14-15 "For if you forgive men their trespasses,  your heavenly Father will also forgive you.   But if you do not forgive men their trespasses,  neither will your heavenly Father forgive your trespasses. "

We must keep moving forward and looking to our goal.  We need to keep running the race that is set before us and trust that God will work this all out for good (Romans 8:28-30).  We must keep running the race that is set before you. 

Philippians 3:13-14  "but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward for those things which are ahead. I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. "

There is a difference between looking at the past and learning from it and reliving the past. Learn from the past,  but don't keep dwelling there.  Satan attacks us enough by giving us flashbacks and ptsd. When that happens,  we have to remind ourselves not to keep dwelling there.  We have to remind ourselves that we forgave our abusers and keep pressing forward.  We have to trust that God will work it out for good (Romans 8:28-30). In time,  it will be revealed to us. 

Looking back will destroy you.  Looking forward and being in prayer and God's word will help you and God can use you to do great things as a result of what you have been through. 

Keep moving forward.  When you fall, get up and keep moving.  You will get there.

God bless you,
Rodney Calmes